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사랑하는 이의 자살 후의 삶|The One with Debra Blaylock - Beyond the Shadow: Life After the Suicide of a Loved One: Episode 22 (2024)

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 사랑하는 이의 자살 후의 삶|The One with Debra Blaylock - Beyond the Shadow: Life After the Suicide of a Loved One: Episode 22 (2024)

TW: This episode discusses suicide and grief.

In this powerful episode, we sit down with my dear friend, Debra Blaylock, who courageously shares her journey of grief and resilience following her husband's suicide, which took place just before the COVID-19 lockdown. The timing added layers of isolation and loneliness to her already immense sorrow, complicating the healing process. This episode aims to explore the immediate and prolonged aftermath of such a tragic loss and to share, in Debra’s words, how “the pain never leaves; it’s transferred down to the family.” Debra talks about the invisible nature of pain—how it can quietly consume loved ones and leave a permanent impact on those left behind. She reflects, “You have to realize you are not a person; you are just involved,” encapsulating how grief reshapes one’s identity. Debra stresses the importance of recognizing the signs of distress, having open conversations about mental health, and seeking support when needed. Her story is a poignant reminder that although the pain may be overwhelming, there is always hope, and no one is ever truly alone. She leaves listeners with the crucial message: “There is always hope, and you are never truly alone.” This conversation sheds light on the silent struggles many face and offers hope and guidance for anyone navigating a similar path. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out. Together, we can break the silence around mental health and be a source of light and support for one another.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 인연| On 'Past Lives': An Exploration of Love, Loss, and Cinematic Brilliance - The One with Doc. Ayomide: Episode 11 (2024)

This week, I bring you an episode full of fun and laughter with Doc Ayomide, and it's a rollercoaster of stories and movies. We talked about *Past Lives*—the movie. *Past Lives* isn't just a film; it's an emotional journey through love, loss, and the sands of time. The movie follows the intertwined destinies of Nora and Hae Sung, childhood friends who are separated when Nora's family emigrates from South Korea. Years later, they reconnect, leading to a poignant exploration of what might have been and their lives' paths. Distributed by A24, this film has garnered critical acclaim for its heartfelt storytelling and nuanced performances.

We broke down those important lines and heart-wrenching scenes that hit you immediately in this episode. Ever feel like a movie is reflecting your own life back at you? Yeah, we’re going there. Doc Ayomide and I are here to share our favorite moments, dissect the characters' journeys, and spill the tea on how this film reshapes our understanding of human connections. As the resident Koreanophile, I shared some nuanced cultural meanings with Ayomide that he missed, adding another layer to our discussion. Whether you're a film fanatic or just love a good story, this episode has something for you.

Join your favorite host as we unpack intricate storytelling and jaw-dropping moments that will stay with you long after the credits roll. Tune in—you won't want to miss it!

PS: Apple still sucks. #TeamDroid all the way

마음이 아플 때| The One with Som Ghosh - On Grief and Loss: Episode 10 (2018)

Last week, I took you on a trip to India with an interview with Dr. Shah. I decided to stay longer in India to bring you this week’s episode from another Indian. Losing one parent is hard enough but imagine losing both of your parents, and in addition to this monumental grief, having to cope with the guilt of being thousands of miles away from home when this happens.

In this episode, I speak to Som Ghosh – a Tabla-playing Indian living in America on grief observed. We talked about how grief is handled by Hindus and how certain burial rites performed by Hindus might make coping with grief better, and how he has been coping with losing both parents. I also talked about a personal grief and how I was able to (and still) cope with this. We begin his story from why he decided to leave his job at Pfizer and head on to pursue a PhD in Health Economics and Outcomes Research (HEOR) and tips for those considering going back to school after working for a while.

How to cope with grief, as surmised by Som and me (in no particular order):

Let grief run its course.
Take time to mourn the loss.
Cry if you must.
Label the emotions as they come, anger, sadness, pain, anguish.
Remember that emotions are like messengers, we do not shoot them. Listen to the gifts they bear and afterwards, send them on their journey in a nice way, knowing fully well that they might come back again.
Find someone you can trust to talk to about your grief. And if you cannot find someone, just like Tennessee Williams suggested, depend on the kindness of strangers who are usually obliagted to listen to you.
Seek grief counseling or therapy.