여기도 거기에 없어요| The One with Adrian - Neither Here Nor There – Episode 9 (2019)

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The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: The One with Adrian - Neither Here Nor There

#Phew (breathe in and out)

Let’s take a deep breath from the back-to-back heavy episodes of ovary talks and whatnots. In this episode, I titled ‘여기도 거기에 없어요’ meaning ‘neither here nor there,’ I talked with my friend, Adrian Patenaude – a confessional poet, one of my pen-pals, and one of the 20-something-year-olds who greatly inspire me. Growing up White in rural Northern Thailand sure had its ups and downs; all of which we unearthed in this episode. We also talked about nostalgia of the moment, our love for books, poetry, and music, giving the gift of music to friends, and reminisced on our Black Mirror viewing party days gone by. I live vicariously through Adrian as she does a great job of archiving her 20s and embracing the awkwardness, quirkiness, otherness, and everything-ness of those growing pains – something that came too late for me in my 20s.

Her poetry has really inspired my work and process, especially with my writing and the show. Reading her poetry is like reading a diary that was accidentally left opened, intentionally; a process she calls performed vulnerability. Also, listen to this episode to find out how she practices self-care.

Adrian can be found (and read) at http://adrianpatenaude.com and has a fangirl IG page where she gushes about one of her passions; follow her here: @lookingforcorny.

Why Adrian is unforgettable:

She sent me a song that helped heal my heart when it was broken. I wrote about this here.
She has introduced me to a lot of her friends, who are equally as unforgettable, talented, and doing amazing things in their own spaces.

Reflection:

Prioritizing mental health, especially for ambitious people like us is vital.
It is essential for us creatives to find avenues for self-expression and unlearn that default approach of functionality over vanity.
Why do we (especially creatives) tie so much of our worthiness and identity to our work and output?

Adrian says:

“There are things we can say and music touches you in a different way. It is almost like it bypasses something, it bypasses logic and your thinking and goes straight to something deeper. I don’t know how musicians do that; that’s complete magic.”

Show Notes

Book references
- Keep Going by Austin Kleon
- Early Riser by Jasper Fforde
- Am I There Yet?: The Loop-de-loop, Zigzagging Journey to Adulthood (@bymariandrew)
Artist/music references
- Hello My Old Heart by Oh Hellos
- Abhi the Nomad
- Johnny Sun
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